It’s late and we’ve just gotten home from flying in from Barbados, but I’ve got to write all this down now while it’s fresh on my mind. From January 3 to now, this has unequivocally been the best time of my life.
If you read my last post, you know that I married my best friend, Courtney Moser, on Friday, January 3. It was a small, beautiful ceremony at the renovated Providence Cotton Mill in Maiden, NC with just my parents, her mother and family friend, and our two kids, Avett and Kynlee, present. And I couldn’t have asked for a better day.
The Elopement Company out of Charlotte handled everything — flowers, scheduling, photography, you name it. Couldn’t speak more highly of them. Charity was the best. We don’t have all of our wedding photos yet, but here is one below she posted as a sneak-peak on Instagram.
After the wedding, we spent the rest of the weekend at the Ballentyne in Charlotte before flying out to Barbados on Sunday. Saturday was so much fun…we did something we have been wanting to do for so long and played two hours at Top Golf. What an absolute blast…that is the way to play golf! I used to play actual golf all the time, but it’s not for me anymore. Takes too long (4 hours usually) and I don’t have enough time to play anymore and actually get better. What I tended to do toward the end of my golfing days was play a round, get mad because it wasn’t going well, become frustrated that I never had the time to get better, get mad some more…then realize that I had paid for the experience! Not for me anymore, I’ll stick to hockey, tennis, and writing as hobbies. BUT… if I play golf from now on, Top Golf is the way to go.
Barbados was beyond anything I’ve ever seen. Breathtaking views of the Caribbean Sea and the Atlantic…beyond my dreams. And we got to experience it all at Michael Scott’s favorite resort…Sandals. What an incredible place…the majority of what I have to say about Sandals Royal Barbados is amazingly positive. The food and drinks were great, the entertainment amazing, and the time spent with my best friend and now wife was beyond what I could have asked for. As close as we already are, I absolutely feel closer to Courtney now than I ever have. Perhaps my favorite memory from this trip was in the rooftop pool. There was a party going on that night, a good number of people at the adjacent bar, music playing, but all we were focused on was each other. We found ourselves dancing to the music, in the pool, first an upbeat song that allowed us to both be crazy, then a slower tune where I just held onto her. We both looked at each other and never really had to say it aloud, though we did: “This was a moment we would remember.” And it’s true…I believe I’ll remember that for the rest of my life.
I won’t detail everything we did like sailing, bowling, meeting our new friends Chai and Kali (who I hope to stay connected with, great people from Louisiana who serve our country in the Air Force), reading two novels in one week (The Guardians by John Grisham and The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides), or the tons of laughs we had…I just know this week was, without a doubt, the best time of my life. Regardless, I know that will soon change and I’ll be afforded another chance to publish another post about another time I refer to as “the best time of my life.” Isn’t that what marriage is supposed to be? Growing together and becoming stronger…making memories and choosing to stay in love?
I’m sure some experts in the field, or people who’ve been married for some time might say different. But whatever Courtney and I have been doing since we met…it works for us. And our idea of marriage, relationships, and what ours ought to be like…well, what we are doing makes us happy. If I have one piece of advice to newly married couples, or anyone for that matter, it’s to find what makes you both happy and just do it. You’ll have the time of your life.